Lots and Lots of Friends

I'd like to have a ton of friends - old friends, new friends, true friends, cool friends. I want to keep my friendships with people all over, but I also really want a lot of local friends. I want book club friends, dinner party friends, Jewish friends, queer friends, academic friends, down to earth friends, changing the world friends, inspiring friends, supportive friends, spiritual friends, traveling friends, personal growth friends. I'll be there for them, and they'll be there for me.

A Fabulous Relationship

As I deal with this break-up with Jerry and the aftermath of his verbal abuse, I have hope that one day I'll have a really solid, fabulous relationship. This is what I think it'll look like: we'll be there for each other - to talk things over, comfort each other, and support each other. We'll strive to meet each other's needs and have open communication. We won't be afraid of each other, but grateful. I want to be with someone who acknowledges that they're not perfect, but is working to make themselves better. I want the relationship to be a path for us to grow and heal.

There are things from the relationship with Jerry that I'd like to find again: someone who makes me laugh, who is strong, who likes to try new things and go to new places, who is committed to the relationship and doing whatever it takes to make it work (although clearly there is where we're getting stuck), who takes care of me.

But, I long to be with someone who will acknowledge me and my needs. I want to be with someone who wants me around not for what I can do for them, but just because they love me. I want someone who WANTS and encourages me to be whole and happy, even if that means doing things apart every once in awhile or doing something that isn't their favorite.